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10 guidelines to repair relationships

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January 16, 2024
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10 guidelines to repair relationships


By Larry Tomczak, CP Op-Ed Contributor Tuesday, January 16, 2024
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“If you know these things, you will be blessed if you do them” (John 13:17)

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On the wall of my study are the words of Henry Drummond that I’ve tried to live by for 50 years: “I shall pass through this world but once. Any good therefore that I can do, or any kindness that I can show to any human being, let me do it now, let me not defer or neglect it, for I shall not pass this way again.”

I also live by the acronym H.O.P.E.: Helping Other People Everyday.

In a world increasingly characterized by what Jesus described at the end of the age, people “offended, betraying and hating” (Matt.24:10), how we need to pay particular attention to doing good by nurturing healthy relationships and repairing broken ones.

In His high priestly prayer before the Cross, Jesus prayed that we would prioritize guarding our unity and love for one another so the world would believe that He came from God (John 17:21).

The biblical directive is crystal clear: “Repay no one evil for evil, but give thought to do what is honorable in the sight of all. If possible, so far as it depends on you, live peaceably with all” (Rom.12:16-18).

So what are we supposed to do as flawed folks (“we all err [offend] in many ways” (James 3:2)) when we encounter inevitable relational conflict?

Back to basics

We remind ourselves that the cost of true discipleship is to “deny self, pick up our cross, and follow Him” in obedience (Matt.15:24) living not by emotion but by decision. We remember that if we don’t forgive others Jesus said neither will our heavenly Father forgive us (Matt.6:15). And there are no limits to forgiveness as Jesus said it is “70×7” (Matt.18:22) Gulp! It’s for His glory and our good.

When we’re at odds with someone in our marriage, family, church, ministry, or business, let’s jettison excuses that rationalize that things will just go away as we live in denial. If we don’t correct it, we’ll reject it! So, let’s anchor ourselves in the attitude of Jesus.

“Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit, but in humility, consider others better than yourselves. Each of you should look not only to your own interest, but also to the interest of others” (Phil.2-4).

10 guidelines

Consider posting these and passing them along to your church, ministry and loved ones to pro-actively pre-empt problems.

1. Affirm that getting reconciled is a directive, not an elective.

Jesus said if you’re coming to worship and there’s an outstanding offense with someone, leave your gift and go get things right (Matt. 5:23) and do it respectfully and redemptively looking to yourself in all humility (Gal. 6:1). This requires BOTH individuals to demonstrate Christlike conduct: humility, godly sorrow for sin and real repentance.

“Bill, you and I have known each other for a while and I really value our relationship and want to make things right starting with me where there’s been some breakdown between us. Can we talk and let’s face where we failed and let’s make things right.” (Note: this is not done via text!]).

2. Reject passivity and act intentionally to thwart the “accuser of the brethren” (Rev.12:10) from poisoning others with a “root of bitterness that can defile many” (Heb. 12:15).

Remember how Absalom, son of David, engendered division and defilement by receiving whispering evil reports and allowing them to spread?

3. Conduct ourselves in a godlike manner, being “swift to listen, slow to speak and slow to anger” (James 1:19).

“The fool takes no pleasure in understanding, but only in expressing his opinion” (Prv.18:2).

4. Honor “due process” coming in a spirit of inquiry not accusation knowing “the first to present his case seems right until the other comes and examines him” (Prv.18:17).

5. Purpose to give people the benefit of the doubt and be loving, avoiding inflammatory, categorical statements (“you always… you never… you’re a blankety-blank…”) that are inconsistent with charitable conversation.

“Love, suffers long, and is kind … love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, and endures all things … For we know in part … When I was a child, I spoke as a child, I understood as a child, and I thought as a child … So now abide faith, hope and love, these three, but the greatest of these is love” (1 Cor.13).

6. Resist all prideful, self-righteous attitudes and actions in dialogue remembering that we are all sinners saved by grace.

Corrie ten Boom, whose family members were all killed by the Nazis, encountered a former SS guard from the Ravensbrook prison camp who asked for her forgiveness. She lovingly forgave him saying, “There’s a Hitler in all of us.”

“The heart is deceitful and desperately wicked above all things, who then can know it?” (Jer. 17:9-10).

“All the ways of a man seem right in his own eyes but the Lord weighs the heart” (Proverbs 21:2).

7. Uphold the directive of Jesus to meet privately and personally to handle apparent sinful conduct thereby steering clear of gossip (sharing private information with people who are neither part of the problem nor part of the solution) and slander (telling information that may or may not be true but is designed to harm someone’s reputation).

The Apple corporation has a policy in its culture that they will follow this procedure as a requirement for its employees.

8. After thorough interaction if we are at an impasse, we will follow the instruction of Jesus and humble ourselves to seek mature Biblical counsel to help resolve the conflict (Matt.18:15-16).

9. In repairing relationships, we will intentionally extend mercy to one another differentiating between an isolated incident and an ongoing pattern of behavior.

Grace is giving people what they don’t deserve but mercy is not giving people what they do deserve. Scripture tells us, “Mercy triumphs over judgment” (Jam.2:13) and “Blessed are the merciful, for they shall obtain mercy” (Matt.5:7). We’ll reap what we sow!

10. Celebrating God-given diversity within the Christian community, we pledge to be gracious in recognizing different preferences, personalities and positions on grey areas “disputable matters” (Roman 14) and not let them be a source of division.

None of us has it all together, but together we have it all!

“We make allowances for one another because we love one another” (Eph. 4:2) (J.B. Phillips)

Here’s the deal

Amid a generation experiencing incredible division and hatred, may we consecrate ourselves to repair relationships to glorify God, receive His blessing, and block Satan’s schemes.

“Behold, how good and how pleasant it is for brothers to dwell together in unity … for there the Lord has commanded the blessing, even life forever” (Psalms 133:1,3).

Larry Tomczak author of 10 books, is a cultural commentator of 50 yrs, Intercessors for America board member, best-selling author and a public policy adviser with Liberty Counsel. His new, innovative video/book, BULLSEYE, develops informed influencers in 30 days (see www.bullseyechallenge.com). and he has a variety of resources on his website (see www.larrytomczak.com). You can also hear his weekly podcast here.

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