Mrs. Jessica Brodie says There Are 7 Great Reasons Sex Is Important in Marriage
Daniel Whyte III, President of Gospel Light Society International, who is known for saying that God wants people who are married to have lots of sex for many reasons; He is also known for saying, “God wants the husband to get it and she needs to be got.” The problem today in many marriages is that pastors, pastors’ wives, so-called church leaders, the anti-patriarchy movement, the ultra-feminist movement, mothers and sadly some fathers, and women’s groups, and even Jezebel wives telling men they are toxic, mean, and not in touch with their female side (which real men do not have a female side), have beat down men, their sons, their husbands so badly, most men don’t know who they are, do not understand their biblical authority over a woman, and have believed the lie of pastors that men ought to submit to their wives, and some are effeminate. Because of this, many men are hesitant, timid, weak, and are somehow foolishly waiting on the woman to make a move when it is time to have sex. In most cases, that is not going to happen. In addition to that, all of that hesitancy, timidity, and weakness and acting like you do not know what to do is a big turnoff for most women. So, Whyte tells men every time you have the urge and desire for sex, GO FOR IT. She may not be ready, but you can get her ready real quick like, and when it’s all over, you’re going to be glad you did the deed and she is going to be glad you did the deed with her. Whyte thanks God for A WOMAN, Mrs. Jessica Brodie, delineating THE 7 REASONS SEX IS IMPORTANT IN MARRIAGE.
1. Sex Is Part of What God Intends for a Marriage
As stated above, when God created man and woman, he intended for the husband to “hold fast” to his wife and for the pair to “become one flesh.”
The original Hebrew used for “hold fast” is dābaq, which translates also to “join with” or “cleave to.” It’s another way of saying the two will adhere, or stick, to one another. The original Hebrew for “become one flesh” is basar echad, also meaning uniting of the meat, flesh, or skin. Essentially, God is saying he fully intends for a husband and wife to join as one flesh, to unite in their bodies.
This is different from sex being merely “permitted” in marriage. Rather, God is saying sex is expected, proper, and an important element of a marriage.
Following this, the Bible notes that the man and woman were “naked and were not ashamed” (Genesis 2:25) — again, reiterating the idea that sex isn’t just allowed but encouraged and considered good and a proper part of marriage.
This is echoed much later, in 1 Corinthians 7, when the apostle Paul writes that, “The husband should give to his wife her conjugal rights, and likewise the wife to her husband. For the wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. Likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does” (1 Corinthians 7:3-4).
The husband and wife, then, belong to each other. One flesh, as God intends.
2. Sex Helps Us “Be Fruitful and Multiply”
Sex does not always result in reproduction. But we do know that reproduction happens when a man and woman have sex. And while there are so many more glorious and beautiful reasons to have sex in marriage than reproduction, reproduction is part of God’s plan for his people. As he told the first man and woman in the Garden of Eden, “Be fruitful and multiply and fill the earth” (Genesis 1:28).
The original Hebrew for fruitful is to para, meaning produce, flourish, or increase. The Hebrew for multiply is raba, meaning to make numerous or cause to increase.
He wanted the people to populate the world and help to thrive, and sex helped them do this. Likewise, in a marriage, sex can produce children, thereby growing the family in size and creating a legacy.
3. Sex Bonds a Couple
Life can be incredibly difficult. We might face illness, loss, financial hardship, famine, persecution, and more. Worldly cares and frustrations, not to mention temptations, can distract us from what is important in life and lead us astray.
But sex creates deep intimacy between a husband and wife. It’s a language and an act you share with no one else but your spouse, and it establishes a closeness we desperately need in our marriages, especially when dealing with life’s troubles.
When we leave our childhood families — our parents — to join with our spouse, a bond is broken, but a new bond is formed. That bond isn’t meant to be established once, or just for practical reproductive purposes but for intimate, relational purposes. Over and over again, as a married couple engages in sex with each other, they establish and deepen their bond. They draw closer and closer, one flesh, just like God intended.
1. Sex Is Part of What God Intends for a Marriage
Sex is never casual. When we engage in sex with our spouse, we are giving over the self. It’s an act of beautiful and loving sacrifice, serving and expressing love in a unique way only experienced in this one particular relationship.
In Romans 12:1, the apostle Paul urges us to present our bodies as “a living sacrifice, holy and acceptable to God, which is your spiritual worship.” In a marriage, when we give of ourselves sexually to our spouse, it’s much the same. We offer our bodies as a living sacrifice. It also ties in with Paul’s words in 1 Corinthians 7, that the husband has a duty to give his body to his wife and the wife has a duty to give her body to her husband. “Do not deprive one another, except perhaps by agreement for a limited time,” Paul writes in 1 Corinthians 7:5.
5. Sex Helps Us Resist Temptation
Of course, there’s another great benefit to frequent sex within a marriage. As Paul continues in 1 Corinthians 7:5, don’t deprive each other “so that Satan may not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.”
Regular sexual intimacy keeps the bond strong between a married couple, and by doing so, it locks shut a door that sexual temptation can open. It also helps guard us against lust and sexual impurity.
6. Sex Is an Act of Love
Sex isn’t just a physical act. While physical actions are involved, it’s also an emotional and spiritual exercise. God designed it that way. It makes us happy and releases good feelings. It can help hard or broken parts of ourselves heal, or tear down emotional walls that might be rising between spouses.
At its root, while the physical is involved, sex is an expression of love and unity, a joyous and life-affirming act. As Proverbs 5:18-19 urges, “Let your fountain be blessed, and rejoice in the wife of your youth, a lovely deer, a graceful doe. Let her breasts fill you at all times with delight; be intoxicated always in her love.”
And as the husband says to his wife in Song of Solomon 7:6-8, “How beautiful and pleasant you are, O loved one, with all your delights! Your stature is like a palm tree, and your breasts are like its clusters. I say I will climb the palm tree and lay hold of its fruit.”
Ephesians 5:28 urges husbands to love their wives, reminding readers that God created man and woman to join to each other as one flesh.
Sex is a deep and profound act of love, he’s saying. Don’t withhold it.
7. Sex Glorifies God
It might not be the first thing that comes to mind when we read Paul’s urging to the early church in 1 Corinthians 10:31, “So, whether you eat or drink, or whatever you do, do all to the glory of God.”
But sex, too, can glorify God. When we give our whole hearts, all our passion, lovingly and sacrificially to our spouse, what a beautiful way this is to love them and honor the Lord. Not only is this passionate, pleasurable, and pure, but it helps our marriage relationship grow, keeps us on track spiritually by helping us have sexual self-control, and serves our spouse.
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Jessica Brodie is an award-winning Christian novelist, journalist, editor, blogger, and writing coach and the recipient of the 2018 American Christian Fiction Writers Genesis Award for her novel, The Memory Garden. She is also the editor of the South Carolina United Methodist Advocate, the oldest newspaper in Methodism. Learn more about her fiction and read her faith blog at jessicabrodie.com. She has a weekly YouTube devotional, too. You can also connect with her on Facebook, Twitter, and more. She’s also produced a free eBook, A God-Centered Life: 10 Faith-Based Practices When You’re Feeling Anxious, Grumpy, or Stressed.
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